“我的中国妻子对日本的非理性仇恨让我担心”贴及其讨论
发表于 : 周三 1月 03, 2024 12:26 am
这是reddit.com上的一个讨论帖(链接如下),明天有时间时继续翻译下面的跟帖评论,看看西方人对中国人的印象。其中一个跟帖让他问问他妻子对黑人的看法。
https://www.reddit.com/r/China/comments ... _japan_is/
我的中国妻子对日本的非理性仇恨让我担心
我是一名欧盟公民,与一名中国女性结婚。 今天早上,在庆祝新年的宿醉中,我看到了有关日本地震和多次发布海啸警报的消息。 我给妻子看了一些受灾地区的实地视频。 她的回答是“很好”。
我被她冷酷无情的反应吓了一跳。 我指出,如果我对最近中国甘肃发生致命地震的消息做出同样的反应,她肯定会感到不安。 我让她考虑一下,希望这样伤害别人是多么不好的事情。
她回答说,这“不是一回事”,因为“日本人过去杀害了很多中国人,所以这是他们应得的”。
我试图解释我祖父的兄弟被绑架并死在纳粹集中营,尽管我们不是犹太人。 虽然这段历史对我来说非常个人化,但我并不因为现代德国人的祖先几代人以前的所作所为而怨恨他们。
我不明白我的妻子对日本的这种非理性的仇恨从何而来。 我怀疑中国多年来的偏见教育和社交媒体强化发挥了重要作用。 但她无法将无辜的日本地震受害者视为人类同胞,这让我非常担忧。 我不知道如何向她传达这件事。 有没有其他人与中国配偶处理过类似的情况? 任何建议将不胜感激。
版主:我已经锁定了这个帖子,因为它已经失控了。
已经进行了一些有意义的讨论,而其他一切都是一场噩梦。(待续)
原文:
My chinese wife’s irrational hatred for Japan is concerning me
I am an EU citizen married to a Chinese woman. This morning, while nursing a hangover from New Year's celebrations, I saw news about the earthquake in Japan and multiple tsunami warnings being issued. I showed my wife some on-the-ground videos from the affected areas. Her response was "Very good."
I was taken aback by her callous reaction. I pointed out that if I had responded the same way to news of the recent deadly earthquake in Gansu, China, she would rightly be upset. I asked her to consider how it's not nice to wish harm on others that way.
She replied that it's "not the same thing" because "Japanese people killed many Chinese people in the past, so they deserve this."
I tried explaining that my grandfather's brother was kidnapped and died in a Nazi concentration camp, even though we aren't Jewish. While this history is very personal to me, I don't resent modern-day Germans for what their ancestors did generations ago.
I don't understand where this irrational hatred for Japan comes from with my wife. I suspect years of biased education and social media reinforcement in China play a big role. But her inability to see innocent Japanese earthquake victims as fellow human beings is very concerning to me. I'm not sure how to get through to her on this. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation with a Chinese spouse? Any advice would be much appreciated.
BingHongCha: I’ve locked this thread cause its getting out of hand.
The few meaningful discussions have been had and everything else is a nightmare to moderate.
https://www.reddit.com/r/China/comments ... _japan_is/
我的中国妻子对日本的非理性仇恨让我担心
我是一名欧盟公民,与一名中国女性结婚。 今天早上,在庆祝新年的宿醉中,我看到了有关日本地震和多次发布海啸警报的消息。 我给妻子看了一些受灾地区的实地视频。 她的回答是“很好”。
我被她冷酷无情的反应吓了一跳。 我指出,如果我对最近中国甘肃发生致命地震的消息做出同样的反应,她肯定会感到不安。 我让她考虑一下,希望这样伤害别人是多么不好的事情。
她回答说,这“不是一回事”,因为“日本人过去杀害了很多中国人,所以这是他们应得的”。
我试图解释我祖父的兄弟被绑架并死在纳粹集中营,尽管我们不是犹太人。 虽然这段历史对我来说非常个人化,但我并不因为现代德国人的祖先几代人以前的所作所为而怨恨他们。
我不明白我的妻子对日本的这种非理性的仇恨从何而来。 我怀疑中国多年来的偏见教育和社交媒体强化发挥了重要作用。 但她无法将无辜的日本地震受害者视为人类同胞,这让我非常担忧。 我不知道如何向她传达这件事。 有没有其他人与中国配偶处理过类似的情况? 任何建议将不胜感激。
版主:我已经锁定了这个帖子,因为它已经失控了。
已经进行了一些有意义的讨论,而其他一切都是一场噩梦。(待续)
原文:
My chinese wife’s irrational hatred for Japan is concerning me
I am an EU citizen married to a Chinese woman. This morning, while nursing a hangover from New Year's celebrations, I saw news about the earthquake in Japan and multiple tsunami warnings being issued. I showed my wife some on-the-ground videos from the affected areas. Her response was "Very good."
I was taken aback by her callous reaction. I pointed out that if I had responded the same way to news of the recent deadly earthquake in Gansu, China, she would rightly be upset. I asked her to consider how it's not nice to wish harm on others that way.
She replied that it's "not the same thing" because "Japanese people killed many Chinese people in the past, so they deserve this."
I tried explaining that my grandfather's brother was kidnapped and died in a Nazi concentration camp, even though we aren't Jewish. While this history is very personal to me, I don't resent modern-day Germans for what their ancestors did generations ago.
I don't understand where this irrational hatred for Japan comes from with my wife. I suspect years of biased education and social media reinforcement in China play a big role. But her inability to see innocent Japanese earthquake victims as fellow human beings is very concerning to me. I'm not sure how to get through to her on this. Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation with a Chinese spouse? Any advice would be much appreciated.
BingHongCha: I’ve locked this thread cause its getting out of hand.
The few meaningful discussions have been had and everything else is a nightmare to moderate.